It was my extreme pleasure to teach an etiquette course to the Kappa Delta Sorority here at the Coronado Ballroom. The ladies enjoyed a delicious multi-course dinner and received instruction on how to sit, unfold their napkin, and how and when to use each piece of flatware and glassware. I don’t think I have ever enjoyed a group more as they were funny, charming and thoughtful. Standards of etiquette were created to make people FEEL COMFORTABLE, not UNCOMFORTABLE! They act as a guide and make you look professional and polished. The young ladies in attendance asked numerous questions and many of their concerns are still gray areas in the modern etiquette world. Hors d’ouevres today are more than pretty canapes, they are works of art. Unique presentations include shot glasses for soup, picks and demitasse spoons. The ladies asked that once the vessel is empty of food…what do you do with it? The one thing you never try to do is hand it back to the server who is presenting them…it is unsanitary and gross. So we learned how and what to do during the cocktail period.
Many brides, schools and companies are contacting me to teach etiquette courses. The current generation has been raised in a casual society. Many people have never been seated at a formal meal with more than one fork. Many people have no idea when it is appropriate to start eating or what side to pass items to…and the list goes on and on. In the super competitive job market today, luncheon interviews are more for observation than convenience. Seeing if you are courteous, calm, well-mannered and comfortable tells many employers what they need to know. If you slurp your soup, stab your lettuce and fail to pull out a chair for a lady, IT CLEARLY SAYS YOU WILL OFFER SLOPPY SERVICE TO THE COMPANY OR PRODUCT YOU REPRESENT. And I know many companies are basing their hiring decisions on the thank you note you write them. (Yes graduates, you need to do that instead of a text message!) It is a wise investment in your employees and children to learn the basics of St. Louis Modern Business and Social Etiquette. So stop flapping that napkin, extending the pinky finger, drinking your soup, asking for ketchup and call us today!
Rob Schaefer
Modern Etiquette Guru and St. Louis Wedding Professional Hall of Fame Inaugural Inductee
