When my parent’s got married, more than 50% of all couples had a luncheon. Weddings were held on Friday, Saturday and Sunday. As I look back at old wedding photos, I am speechless of how beautiful receptions were at that time.
What happened?
I hear the frustration of many brides today because they wait too late to book a church, a facility or a vendor. The best vendors in the industry book Saturdays 1 to 2 years out.
And why the cause of so much fuss and frustration? Because people are dead set on a Saturday Night Reception with Bar. Saturday Nights book up quickly and since this is prime time for all of us in the industry, prices tend to be higher. There are so many brides out there that could have such a beautiful and magical experience on a budget if they would just think outside the box. Can’t afford the Saturday night minimums at most places, then have a luncheon or brunch! Are your guests local? Is your guest count small? Get creative!
As Rob always says, have the best money can buy with the budget you have. If all you can afford is cake and punch, have the best cake and punch in the midwest and be proud of it. If you can have a beautiful Sunday Luncheon with iced tea and lemonade, then do it. Wedding receptions have evolved from very special celebrations to rowdy parties. And you are kidding yourself and doing a disservice to your guests if you think that “they won’t notice the cheap meal” as long as you keep the liquor flowing at some dark, dingy place.
I think it is such a shame and a waste that so many beautiful Friday nights and Sunday days go wasted because people refuse to be flexible. With the money you save, you could have a breathtaking luncheon wedding with specialty linens, gorgeous flowers and the very best vendors in St. Louis at your side. Wine and champagne could easily accompany lunch as well. A small band or quartet could easily play during the entire experience. And the couple could change and have a beautiful send off for their honeymoon.
Friday Nights are NOT just for rehearsal dinners. A beautiful Tuscan Supper or Spanish style Dinner with Tapas would be magical and memorable. Current style magazines are full of gorgeous looks that can be implemented at a smaller reception. I want all the brides of St. Louis to have the most amazing receptions possible regardless of where they have them. Think beyond Saturday Night and think beyond the Open Bar!
I have never followed the herd my entire life and have always tried to find the possibilities for any party. Call me the Lone Bull. Now granted, I can’t be at all your special receptions but every fairytale has room for modifications.
Be an Original. I am.
Rob
